This issue of the Chronicle is chocked full of couples and all the goodness that comes with love. After reading though the articles, a few things stood out in the making of a good relationship.
There are stories of trust, patience, kindness, caring, but mostly there are stories of selflessness and not asking for anything in return.
There is something to be said for a person who is selfless and able to get satisfaction from helping others and serving the world. There’s no doubt that people are becoming more and more selfish as the world progresses. There’s more of a concentration on the “I” rather than the “us.” Part of it probably comes from the loss of community in our society, but part of it lies within the society. Society has lost touch with the “us.”
These stories tell the tales of couples forging lives for themselves from when they were young, taking on the world together – putting an emphasis on the “us.” If one of them needed something, the other took care of it – no questions asked. They didn’t think, “Where will this leave me,” or “What’s in it for me?” They just accepted that once they were in it for better or worse, that’s what it meant.
These people know what “us” means. Somewhere along the way, they’ve become “us.” They function as one and know that they will continue that way. Sometimes, it’s only one person in a relationship who truly understands that meaning of “us.” Unfortunately, it takes two to really make it work.
If everyone were to be a little more selfless, a little more willing to help someone else out, think of all the change that could occur in the world; all the people who could be happier. Hafiz, a middle eastern poet, summed up the idea of taking care of one another perfectly: “Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth, ‘you owe me.’ Look at what happens with a love like that, it lights up the whole sky.”